I am by far no relationship expert, so if you’re looking to solve your relationship or marriage issue, this may not be the answers you are looking for. This is simply my ideas and thoughts about this subject of relationship matter. I am like anyone else living day to day with friends and relationships and I wanted to share a though I had when it comes to expectations and assumptions within a relationship

I was out with a friend of mine the other day and we were having a conversation about relationships and marriages. We have both been married and have realized that marriages are highly over rated. It seems that marriages these days are just societal pressures of conformity. Why does a piece of paper that says you’re recognized as married under the state of whatever mean so much? To save on auto insurance and get a little discount on taxes? If two people enjoy each other’s company as friends and as sexual partners then why get married and ruin a good thing? If you do get married why does everything change all of a sudden? I came up with the idea that there are certain expectations and assumptions that go along with friendship, relationships and marriage.

Expectations

Expectations are things we expect to happen and when they don’t we get upset or angry. To me expectations are more like agreements because I cannot expect something to happen without first planning what I expect to happen with the other person. If I do not plan what I want to happen then it becomes an assumption on my part. If I expect to meet my girlfriend at 8pm for dinner, it’s because we both agreed to meet somewhere and eat, but if my girlfriend never shows up, I will probably become upset, worried and angry, especially if there is no warning.

Assumptions

Assumptions are things I hope will happen without me having to ask for it or plan for it. Assumptions are not like agreements because they are not verbally acknowledged by the other person you are making assumptions about. Assuming leads to disappointment, confusion, and frustration because people cannot read each other’s minds and assuming something out of someone will always end bad. I think this is where many relationships, friendships and especially marriages go wrong. If I am married and I assume she will do all the cleaning then it will only lead to disappointment when I come home and the house is a mess. This is when the argument comes and usually sounds something like..

MAN: “why is the house such a mess”?
WOMAN: “Because I was out with my friends today and just got back home”
MAN: “Well I expected the house to be clean when I came home, its game night! And with whom and why were you out with your friends all day?”

Then the fight starts, people yell and things are said that probably shouldn’t have been said. But the issue was that the man confused an expectation with an assumption. Now had he said before he went to work…

MAN: “Hun… Its game night and I’ll be home around 6pm, can you make sure the house is clean so we don’t look like slobs?”
WOMAN: “Sure hun… I’ll do it before I go out with the girls”

Now the man has an agreement and can correctly expect the house to be clean when he gets home and avoid a nasty argument. I am sure in many situations this scenario can still go wrong, but that is probably due to many months or years of expectations and assumptions. If we all started making more agreements instead of assumptions and expectations then many of us will probably have much better friendships, relationships and marriages.

Marriages

Marriages are tricky because many unspoken expectations and assumptions are presented from both the man and the woman. There is a long laundry list of them which I probably do not need to mention, but the fact that you probably expect and assume things from your partner at this very moment, which has never been mutually agreed upon, probably does exist. I make mistakes in relationships all the time and I am learning something new each and every day, but as for the other day, this is my lesson learned.

If you have no expectation and assumptions then you cannot become disappointed, upset or angry. Only when you want something out of someone is the only time you can get hurt. I think it is vitally important to make agreements, such as loyalty, duties and roles within a relationship or marriage. Never assume someone is just going to do something, just because or due to societal expectations of your relationship.

Social Pressure

Social relationship pressures come from everywhere such as friends, family, and religion. The problem is trying to live up to their expectations and assumptions. Why do we do that to ourselves? It is a mystery in itself, but in this day and age a valuable lesson is being learned and that is to be yourself and allow others to be themselves. When you are in a marriage or relationship, take it for what’s it is worth and don’t assume or expect anything out of your partner, make agreements and understand one another. Don’t ruin a friendship with a relationship and don’t ruin a relationship with a marriage.

I am not saying to never get married, but I am saying not to marry someone for what they might become one day or for how they might change now that they are locked into a marriage. This will only lead to disappointment, confusion, and anger.

Well its been a while but after my hosting nightmare and quitting smoking I think I am about ready to get things hoppin once again. I have had a long time to think about things and what direction I want to go in. I have recieved a lot of populartity from my digital point posts and my adwords how to videos that were posted on this site. I have decided I want to seperate my teaching of adwords on another website. So I will do just that… I have created a brand new site directly completely at adwords campaign management and PPC internet marketing. I will continue with this blog but keep the focus on things I learn everyday that I want to share, plus random thoughts and ideas. I find myself learning something new just about every single day. There is always something new to learn, explore and discover. This is why I call it How To Rule The World, because for me, thats is what I am doing. Hopefully the things I learn can help you and others.

Originally this blog was created to test my ability at social media, internet networking and SEO (search engine optimization) The popularity I recieved from my how to videos has led me to leave the marketing firm I was with and start freelancing. So I am now a freelance internet marketing manager handling adwords campaigns for affiliates, businesses, arbitragers and others. I learned a lot, especially about social media, and I am sure I still have lots to learn, but I no longer need to focus on it anymore since it is not a work requirement.

Lets look forward to a great second half of the year…

I know everyone has been looking forward to some new tutorials on Google AdWords, but I recently quit smoking, and unfortunately I developed what is called “The Quitters Flu”. I didn’t know this would happen when I decided to commit to quitting for good. All I can say is that I feel sick, and I have never felt so sick in my life. I would probably never have felt this way if I just kept smoking, but I know smoking is bad and is something that should be done.

I have been smoking almost half my life. I stated when I was 14 and now I am 27. I figure, smoking for almost 50% of your entire life as to do something to you permanently. At the very least you become dependant on it. Before I decided to quit smoking I could have never pictured myself a day without a smoke.

I had a discussion the other day with a buddy of mine, and he explained to me that I work so hard at mastering my life, hence my blog motto, How To Rule The World. He said, you are mastering everything around you, but you are not mastering yourself. Why do it, just to throw it all away due to an illness or the inevitable effects of smoking.

So therefore, I QUIT and the hard way too, Cold Turkey.

I was good for the first 24 hours, then around 48 hours in I began to feel sick with flu like symptoms. I thought I was coming down with something, but honestly, I have not had the flu since I was probably 8 years old. I have a rock solid immune system. I can be in a room full of people with the flu and walk out of there never getting sick. So I knew something was wrong. I started researching the effects of quitting and came across a few articles that mentioned the quitter’s flu. By my 72^nd hour of not smoking all I could do is lay in bed. It reminded me of that scene in the Johnny Cash film Walk The Line, where Johnny Cash was locked in his room until he is sober. I was curled up in a ball, I broke out into a cold sweat and couldn’t sleep a wink. I felt like ripping my skin off and my bones and muscles were so sore all I could do is lay there and wish it would all stop.

Well, I am feeling better, but now I have developed this insane cough. All I do is cough all the time. I just wish something would come out. I cough so hard I want to puke, but normally I don’t. I cough at random moments, in the middle of talking, eating, driving, and even while I am sleeping. Last night alone I must have woken myself up at least once every hour to cough about 100 times into my pillow. I just coughed after finishing that last sentence…

Lastly I seem to be loosing my voice now… I can’t speak and half the time I feel like I’m yelling just to say a word. Then while I am trying to say something so hard, I end up squealing like I’m hitting puberty. It’s all really annoying, if you ask me. I hope I get over this fast.

Anyway, since all I do is cough all day long and can’t speak, I basically can’t make a video until this all ends. So for now, I will provide some other insights and thoughts via the good old text written article method.

For those of you who are interested, here are my QUIT SMOKING stats

Time Since Last Cigarette | Amount Saved Since Quitting

In this video I go over how to cluster your adgroup keywords for maximum efficiency. I have recently reviewed several Google Adwords accounts from online forum members that are having problems, and I noticed that many people are grouping their keywords improperly. Many are just bunching up large grouping of keywords into one large adgroup and thinking everything is going to be OK. This method is highly inefficient and will result in much higher average CPC prices.

I decided to pick out a random industry and show the process of keyword research, which is finding keywords related to a specific industry. I then show an extraction method on how to get those keywords off the internet and into your Google Adwords account. I go into detail on how to use excel to extract properly clustered keyword groupings and then how to upload those keywords into your Adwords account using Google Adwords Editor.

Please leave your comments, questions and suggestions.

Thanks everybody!

Many people have been managing their Google Adwords campaign portfolios the old hard way. Using the web interface to manage a Google campaign is very slow and time consuming. I decided to do a little Adwords editor beginners guide for you so that you can see how easy it is to setup and manage your campaigns with this software.

The video tutorial is a little over 15 minutes long, but if you have no knowledge of Google Adwords editor then this tutorial will explain a lot. This is only a guide to the basics and I will go into more advanced stuff in the near future. If you have any questions on anything that is done in this video please let me know. Post a comment or drop me an email at tutorials@robdogg.com